My dog Oscar ate a box of chocolates yesterday. Wouldn’t be so bad if he was a 100-pound Lab and it was a little sampler of truffles. But he’s a 10-pound miniature Dachshund…
…and it was this entire box of more than 50 treats…
If you don’t already know, chocolate is toxic to dogs if they eat enough of it. It takes a lot to really harm a dog, but this was a lot. He had snagged the box sometime after I left for work in the morning, and when I returned home in the evening, his tummy was bloated like an allergic puffer fish. Although that was not unusual: after all, he is in fact a wiener dog, and they’re notorious for getting into things they’re not supposed to and stuffing themselves with wild abandon, which he’s done on numerous occasions. But his breathing pace and heart beat were also double what they normally are, and he was perpetually thirsty, all of which are signs of theobromine poisoning. Then he threw up what he had turned into a bunch of chocolate syrup. Not good.
Of course, the first thing I usually do in any health-related situation within our family is consult the almighty Internet. And that’s almost always a mistake, at least in the sense that there’s inevitably a “This Means Certain Death!” post on some forum. Now add that to the fact that I have a tendency to be mildly hypochondric. If I’ve stubbed my toe, I’ll consult the Web to make sure I don’t have a compound fracture. If I’ve got gas, I’ll pay a visit to a medical-emergency BB to make sure I’m not in labor, checking for any sign that my water has broken.
And then there’s the Web search for home remedies to dire situations. Those are always helpful: “The doctor said I had a stroke because my entire left side was paralyzed, but I wasn’t about to pay that big-city snob to lay me up, so I just drank 3 gallons of prune juice every day, soaked in Epsom salt for 72 hours, and stuck a green hackberry twig up my rectum until it turned black. Within a week… Good as new!”
I don’t know why I’m writing all this. I guess it’s just that I didn’t get much sleep last night because I really was scared that Oscar could die. So I was constantly counting down the hours of what I had read to be the half-life of theobromine, and constantly checking his breathing patterns, making sure he wasn’t having muscle spasms or a seizure, following him outside every couple hours to see if he was puking, or to check the contents of his shit.
And all of this turned out to be a waste of time. When I followed him out the last time, at around 4am, I realized that he had probably gone out to pee, but he got distracted with digging in the dirt to eat cat scat. So there I was stressing to make sure he wasn’t bleeding internally or something, and there he was just looking for more to eat. Son of a bitch. He was fine. A little wired maybe, and clingy, always wanting somebody to rub his belly, and not 100 percent himself…but fine. He woke me up (after just a nap) begging me for breakfast, promptly gobbled it all up like normal, ran around, and went to his usual work of barking at the trash truck.
If there’s any point here, it’s that many people see me as a really laid-back guy, but I really do get easily stressed, and I don’t easily let it go. I just don’t show it because I internalize it. I internalize my emotions like nobody’s business. I hold in my anger, for instance, and it ends up souring inside me, turning into depression or anxiety. I somehow got a message wired into me that anger is bad, or that emotional pain is not to be expressed because men have to suck it up. And I’m learning that holding such things in often produces more stress than the emotion and its cause combined.
Maybe, like Forest Gump’s momma always said, life really is like a box of chocolates…and we’re dogs. What I like about chocolate, especially dark chocolate, is that it’s simultaneously sweet and bitter. It reminds me that it’s good to take in the sweetness of life, but it’s also good to acknowledge the bitterness and appreciate it for what it can teach me.
It’s just that I have a tendency to tackle the entire box at once, trying to solve everything in one take. Maybe because I’m impatient and feel a need to prove to others that I’ve got it all together, and maybe for other reasons too. Regardless, I’m learning to digest things a little at a time and not let everything pile up inside me. Because that’s when I get sick. I get wired and restless and clingy. I start wanting everybody to rub the belly of my ego to reassure me that I’m valuable. And that’s not healthy.
So I’m learning to take my time to wrestle with my issues of faith, doubt, and significance, and trying not to find some quick remedy for my symptoms of confusion or fear or anger or whatever. And in the meantime, I’m just going to sit on the couch and enjoy life with my wife, my dogs, and even the occasional sleepless night, one tasty moment at a time.
Happy Holidays, or whatever you want to call it. Just be sure to keep that chocolate out of your dog’s reach.